Yadira Ibarra is a 36 year old, mother of 3 children. She is Mexican was married and lives in New York City and is a clear spring night, we are sitting down in a bedroom in her apartment facing each other and we talked about Peer Pressure & Friendships.
(Humming) well when i was younger around the age of 17, and also till now i passed through a lot of peer pressure and more. Since those days, too many friends wanted to pressure me not to go to school because they wanted me to be a failure in my future (Frowns). Back then i didn't know how to choose my friends wisely; but as, time passed, i figured out that a friend is someone who you trust, know very well, is honest and you can count with that person in any occasion (Smiles). I think friends are for you to have laughs with, enjoy times together, help each other out and have communication.
What peer pressure means to me is when someone is pushing me to do something i don't want to do and it's bad or when they pressuring me to do something that will help me in my future. (Thinking) when i got to New York i met a lot of friends in which one of them betrayed me by talking about me behind my back while knowing that I was always there for her and helping her out (Frowns).
In my case, i was a very good friend. I helped her out on everything in good and bad times and was always in touch with her, after all I did for her she didn't know how to appreciate my friendship and she decided to talk a lot of bad things about me that were lies and things I felt I could trust her with but yet she went on and told a lot of people. After this experience (Nodding), i dont trust every friend i have because not all of them are honest. Once, one of my friend took advantage of me by sending her kids to me so i could take care of them while she went to other people and started to talk bad about me and got me into a lot of issues with my husband (Frowns). After all she did to me, she thought I was never going to find out. She came to me telling me not to talk to some certain people I was friends with only because she didn't like them. I thoughht she was a very good friend so I listened to her and didn't talk to them until I found out all she wanted was for me not to have any friends annd to get me involved in a lot of problems with many people in the neighborhood (Frown). All I know is that never in my life did i ever fight over a boy or a friend because i think it's not worth it because you can always find a boyfriend or friend anywhere in this world (laughs)
My friends used to always tell me to go to places with them but never told me exactly where; so, i never went unless I was with a family member because I always thought, (What if they take me to a place i don't want to go?' (Humms) So no; I was never taken to an unexpected place'. I never looked to a friend. Being yourself is better then trying to be like someone else or doing what someone else does (Smiles). After so many things happened to me I have less friends but I am sure they will always be there for me because they proved it to me and I have tested them too. Yet I find that everything I talk about with them stays between me and that person; so, that's how I know that I have a true friend. Also because there always watching over me to see if everything is alright. Now I know that when I know a person well enough then that's when I know I should have confidence with them .
Some things that influence people, friends,and family is television because they show you cases in wich many teens and adults are affected by peer pressure, also from friendship and more. Some people may have passed through good and bad things about peer pressure and they may tell you about it, so, that's another way of being aware and preventing so many bad things and doing good. I think peer pressure has its positive and negative parts. One positive thing about peer pressure is that they can pressure you to do something that will help you succeed in your future and help you do good. A negative thing about peer pressure is that they can pressure you to do something bad. Peer pressure is a hard thing to explain and know about, but is necessary to learn about it because it helps to make better choices and do your best and prevent failure and bad things that can affect you (Smiles).
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